“Its a lot easier to tell someone I have MS as a side note in a conversation than to sit down and have a formal discussion focused solely on MS.” However, even a casual, well-prepared speech doesnt always meet with success.
“One guy just clammed up and didnt want to say anything or go anywhere because, in his eyes, I might get hurt,” Allison* says.
“You should definitely practice before you tell your match, or youll most likely fumble through the conversation uncomfortably.” Mark Snyder, a 32-year-old writer from New York City, used to dread telling a new boyfriend that he was a recovering alcoholic.
“I dont think I was ever able to shake off the feeling I was springing the information on him, usually when we were either out to dinner and he wanted to order a bottle of wine, or at a party where alcohol was introduced,” he says. Sorry.” That changed, however, as he got used to talking about his condition.
Related links: Jill* knows that shell eventually have to confess her situation to a long-term partner.
“Its something that will affect me if and when I settle down and have children, since I would not be able to take these medicines [while pregnant],” she explains.
“How you handle this is not something your partner is likely to forget.” Laurie Davis, an online dating expert based in New York and Boston, suggests asking a friend what sounds most intimidating about your condition and getting his or her advice on how to smooth it over.
“Its complicated if you withhold it and they find out too late.
Dishonesty can ruin a potentially good relationship.” Jill*, the 33-year-old from New York City, is currently in a long-distance relationship. Be casual yet confident So exactly how does one reveal a secret without just blurting it out?
I celebrate it now.” * Some names have been changed for privacy.
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